Have you ever gone out on a date with your partner, or out with friends, and realized it was the first time in a long time you weren’t just “Mom”? You got to be you, for just a short while, before returning to the routine of motherhood. You got to hear your first name and turn off the verbal filter. You got to have fun without keeping one eye on the tiny human(s) you raise.
Don’t get me wrong, being a mother is the most beautiful thing! The love we have for our children is unmatched by any other relationship. However, so many of us get lost in the day-to-day that we forget who we were before we became mothers.
My husband was telling me about octopuses, and how many of the females neglect themselves after giving birth. I chuckled and said, “yeah, sounds about right!” It was meant as a light hearted joke, but it was a great reminder to slow down and practice self care. Too many of us forget about our own care, and put ourselves last on a long list of to-do’s, often too tired at the end of the day to follow through.
If your answer was a screaming yes, turn off your device and go do something right now to care for yourself. It can be small! Grab another cup of coffee. Breathe outside. Give yourself a foot bath- or go all out and fill up the tub! After your small act, promise yourself that you’ll make more time for self care. If we continue to neglect ourselves, it becomes harder and harder to be the parent we want to be. It becomes harder to be compassionate through temper tantrums, breathe through crazy amounts of errands, and make it past the kid’s bedtime to spend time with our partners.
Take time for yourself. Love yourself.
Remember, you’re not just mom.